Friday, 30 August 2019

Confidence Quotes for Girls

If you’re a girl, then with no reasons you are not getting proper opportunities as the boys had. In many countries’ girls are not treated well and living under tough circumstances. They are lacking in self-confidence due to no education. Despite of all poor aspects, today girls are even not behind boys. They are working in difficult fields, like the pilot, army and followed their dreams to reach their goals. Girls are often limited to show pieces in different ways.
But keep in mind beauty doesn’t come from the outside, it comes from within. A woman can change the entire generation for several decades. A wisdom girl leaves true love, generosity, good deeds, kindness in their wake. This is what you need to improve your self-confidence to reach the height of success.
Many inspiring women had a great impact on the world with their passion and believe in herself. You just need to be brave and do it. Many women spent painful years to determine their own self-worth that allowed her to grow the essential confidence for being a strong and independent woman.
A strong lady stands up for herself and family. She feels deeply and loves fiercely. Her tears flow as abundantly as her laughter, both softness and powerful. The following inspirational Confidence Quotes for Girls make a positive dent at your personality. Read More – What is Happiness in Life / Source: CP
·         I’m Tough Ambitious & I Know Exactly What I Want. If That Makes Me a Bitch. “Madonna”

·         I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in Miracle. “Audrey Hepburn”

·         I am not a difficult woman at all. I am simply a strong woman and know my worth. “Angelina Jolie”

·         Be a first-rate version of yourself, not a second-rate version of someone else. “Judy Garland”

·         Doubt is a killer. You just have to know who you are and what you stand for. “Jennifer Lopez”

·         The world needs strong women. Women who will lift and build others, who will love and be loved. Women who live bravely, both tender and fierce. Women of indomitable will. “Amy Tenney”

·         Once you figure out what respect tastes like, it tastes better than attention. “Pink”

·         She wore her scars as her best attire. A stunning dress made of hellfire. “Daniel Saint”

·         She was a wild one; always stomping on eggshells that everyone else tip-toed on. “Kaitlin Foster”

·         Each time a woman stands up for herself, she stands up for all women. “Maya Angelon”

·         Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness. “Oprah”

·         I know God will not give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish that He didn’t trust me so much. “Mother Teresa”

·         Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good. Luckily, this is not difficult. “Charlotte Whitton”

·         A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform. “Diane Mariechild”

·         You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through. “Rosalynn Carter”

·         Everyone has inside of her a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be, how much you can love, what you can accomplish, and what your potential is. “Anne Frank”

·         Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold. “Helen Keller”

·         If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman. “Margaret Thatcher”

·         It took me quite a long time to develop a voice, and now that I have it, I’m not going to be silent.Madeleine Albright”

·         You don’t have to play masculine to be a strong woman. “Mary Elizabeth Winstead”

·         Sometimes I wake up and think I look horrible. And sometimes I see a strong woman. “Irina Shayk”

·         A strong woman is a woman determined to do something others are determined not to be done. “Marge Piercy”

·         Let’s be clear, I’m a strong woman. “Bethenny Frankel”

·         Happiness and confidence are the prettiest things you can wear. “Taylor Swift”

·         A strong woman accepts the war she went through and is ennobled by her scars. “Carly Simon”

·         A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform. “Diane Mariechild”

·         Imperfections are beauty, madness is genius, and it’s better to be ridiculous than boring. “Marilyn Monroe”

·         I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself. “Emma Stone”

·         A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous. “Coco Chanel”

·         There are two ways of spreading light. To be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. “Edith Wharton”

·         No matter how plain a woman may be, if truth and honesty are written across her face, she will be beautiful.“Eleanor Roosevelt”

·         If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman. “Margaret Thatcher”

·         I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself. “Emma Stone”

·         Don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself. Keep fighting for your dreams.
“Gabby Douglas”

·         Women’s are made to be loved nor for understood. “Oscar Wilde”

Saturday, 24 August 2019

What Makes You Happy

So, what has science learned about what makes the human heart sing? More than one might imagine along with some surprising things about what doesn’t ring our inner chimes. Take wealth, for instance, and all the delightful things that money can buy. Research by Diener, among others, has shown that once your basic needs are met, additional income does little to raise your sense of satisfaction with life a good education?

Sorry, neither education nor, for that matter, a high IQ paves the road to happiness. Youth? No, again. In fact, older people are more dependably satisfied with their lives than the young. And they are less prone to dark moods. A survey conducts by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that people ages 20 to 24 are sad for an average of 3.4 days a month, as opposed to just 2.3 days for people ages 65 to 74.  

Married people are generally happier than singles, but that may be because they were happier to begin with sunny days? Nope, although a study showed that Midwesterners think folks living in balmy California are happier and that Californians incorrectly believe this about themselves too. On the positive side, religious faith seems to genuinely lift the spirit. Though it’s tough to tell whether it’s the God part or the community aspect that does the heavy lifting. 

A study conducted at the University of Illinois by Diener and Seligman found that the most salient characteristics shared by the 10% of students with the highest levels of happiness. However, the fewest signs of depression were their strong ties to friends and family and commitment to spending time with them. Word needs to be spread. It is important to work on social skills, close interpersonal ties and social support to be happy.

Measuring the Moods
Of course, happiness is not a static state. Even the happiest of people the cheeriest 10% feel blue at times. And even the bluest have their moments of joy. That has presented a challenge to social scientists trying to measure happiness. That, along with the simple fact that happiness is inherently subjective. To get around those challenges, researchers have devised several methods of assessment.
Diener has created one of the most basic and widely used tools, the Satisfaction with Life Scale. Though some scholars have questioned the validity of this simple, five-question survey, Diener has found that it squares well with other measures of happiness, such as impressions from friends and family, expression of positive emotion and low incidence of depression.
Researchers have devised other tools to look at more transient moods.  A popular Csikszentmihalyi pioneered a method of using beepers and, later, handheld computers to contact subjects at random intervals. A pop-up screen presents an array of questions. What are you doing? How much are you enjoying it? Are you alone or interacting with someone else?
The method, called experience sampling, is costly, intrusive and time consuming, but it provides an excellent picture of satisfaction and engagement at a specific time during a specific activity. Just month, a team led by Nobel prize winning psychologist Daniel Kahneman of Princeton University unveiled a new tool for sizing up happiness: the day reconstruction method.
Participants fill out a long diary and questionnaire detailing everything they did on the previous day. And whom they were with at the time and rating a range of feelings during each episode (happy, impatient, depressed, worried, tired, etc.) on a seven-point scale. The method was tested on a group of 900 women in Texas with some surprising results. It turned out that the five most positive activities for these women were (in descending order) sex, socializing, relaxing, praying or meditating, and eating.
Exercising and watching TV were not far behind. But way down the list was taking care of children, which ranked below cooking and only slightly above housework. That may seem surprising, given that people frequently cite their children as their biggest source of delight which was a finding of a Time poll on happiness conducted. When asked, “What one thing in life has brought you the greatest happiness?
35% said it was their children or grandchildren or both. (Spouse was far behind at just 9%, and religion a runner-up at 17%.) The discrepancy with the study of Texas women points up one of the key debates in happiness research. Which kind of information is more meaningful global reports of well-being (My life is happy, and my children are my greatest joy) or more specific data on enjoyment of day-to-day experiences (What a night! The kids were such a pain!)?

The two are very different, and studies show they do not correlate well. Our overall happiness is not merely the sum of our happy moments minus the sum of our angry or sad ones. This is true whether you are looking at how satisfied you are with your life in general or with something more specific, such as your kids, your car, your mobile, your favorite game, your job or your vacation. Kahneman likes to distinguish between the experiencing self and the remembering self.

His studies show that what you remember of an experience is particularly influenced by the emotional high and low points and by how it ends. So, if you were to randomly beep someone on vacation in Italy. You might catch that person waiting furiously for a slow-moving waiter to take an order or grousing about the high cost of the pottery. But if you ask when it’s over, “How was the vacation in Italy?”, the average person remembers the peak moments and how he or she felt at the end of the trip.

The power of endings has been demonstrated in some remarkable experiments by Kahneman. One such study involved people undergoing a colonoscopy, an uncomfortable procedure in which a flexible scope is moved through the colon. While a control group had the standard procedure, half the subjects endured an extra 60 seconds during which the scope was held stationary; movement of the scope is typically the source of the discomfort.

It turned out that members of the group that had the somewhat longer procedure with a benign ending found it less unpleasant than the control group, and they were more willing to have a repeat colonoscopy. Asking people how happy they are, Kahneman contends, “is very much like asking them about the colonoscopy after it’s over.

There’s a lot that escapes them.” Kahneman therefore believes that social scientists studying happiness should pay careful attention to people’s actual experiences rather than just survey their reflections. That, he feels, is especially relevant if research is to inform quality-of-life policies like how much money our society should devote to parks and recreation or how much should be invested in improving workers’ commutes.

You cannot ignore how people spend their time,” he says, “when thinking about well-being.” Seligman, in contrast, puts the emphasis on the remembering self. “I think we are our memories more than we are the sum total of our experiences,” he says. For him, studying moment-to-moment experiences puts too much emphasis on transient pleasures and displeasures. Happiness goes deeper than that, he argues in his 2002 book Authentic Happiness.

 As a result of his research, he finds three components of happiness: pleasure (“the smiley-face piece”), engagement (the depth of involvement with one’s family, work, romance and hobbies) and meaning (using personal strengths to serve some larger end). Of those three roads to a happy, satisfied life, pleasure is the least consequential, he insists: “This is newsworthy because so many Americans build their lives around pursuing pleasure. It turns out that engagement and meaning are much more important.


One of the biggest issues in happiness research is the question of how much our happiness is under our control. The University of Minnesota researcher David Lykken published a paper looking at the role of genes in determining one’s sense of satisfaction in life. Lykken, gathered information on 4,000 sets of twins born in Minnesota from 1936 through 1955. After comparing happiness data on identical vs. fraternal twins, he concluded that about 50% of one’s satisfaction with life comes from genetic programming.

Genes influence such traits as having a sunny, easygoing personality; dealing well with stress; and feeling low levels of anxiety and depression.) Moreover, he found that circumstantial factors like income, marital status, religion and education contribute only about 8% to one’s overall well-being. He attributes the remaining percentage to “life’s slings and arrows.” Because of the large influence of our genes. He proposed the idea that each of us has a happiness set point much like our set point for body weight.

No matter what happens in our life good, bad, spectacular, horrific we tend to return in short order to our set range. Some post-tsunami images last week of smiling Asian children returning to school underscored this amazing capacity to right ourselves. And a substantial body of research documents our tendency to return to the norm. A study of lottery winners done in 1978 found, for instance, that they did not wind up significantly happier than a control group. Even people who lose the use of their limbs to a devastating accident tend to bounce back, though perhaps not all the way to their base line.

One study found that a week after the accident, the injured were severely angry and anxious, but after eight weeks happiness was their strongest emotion. Psychologists call this adjustment to new circumstances adaptation. “Everyone is surprised by how happy paraplegics can be,” says Kahneman. The reason is that they are not paraplegic full time. They do other things. They enjoy their meals, their friends.

They read the news. It has to do with the allocation of attention.” In his extensive work on adaptation, Edward Diener has found two life events that seem to knock people lastingly below their happiness set point: loss of a spouse and loss of a job. It takes five to eight years for a widow to regain her previous sense of well-being. Similarly, the effects of a job loss linger long after the individual has returned to the work force.

When he proposed his set-point theory eight years ago, Lykken came to a drastic conclusion. It may be that trying to be happier is as futile as trying to be taller. He has since come to regret that sentence. I made a dumb statement in the original article. It’s clear that we can change our happiness levels widely up or down. He revisionist thinking coincides with the view of the positive-psychology movement, which has put a premium on research showing you can raise your level of happiness.

For Seligman and likeminded researchers, that involves working on the three components of happiness getting more pleasure out of life (which can be done by savoring sensory experiences, although, he warns, “you’re never going to make a curmudgeon into a giggly person”), becoming more engaged in what you do and finding ways of making your life feel more meaningful. There are numerous ways to do that, they argue.

At the University of California at Riverside, psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky is using grant money from the National Institutes of Health to study different kinds of happiness boosters. One is the gratitude journal a diary in which subjects write down things for which they are thankful. She has found that taking the time to conscientiously count their blessings once a week significantly increased subjects’ overall satisfaction with life over a period of six weeks, whereas a control group that did not keep journals had no such gain.

Gratitude exercises can do more than lift one’s mood. At the University of California at Davis, psychologist Robert Emmons found they improve physical health, raise energy levels and, for patients with neuromuscular disease, relieve pain and fatigue. “The ones who benefited most tended to elaborate more and have a wider span of things they’re grateful for,” he notes.

Another happiness booster, say positive psychologists, is performing acts of altruism or kindness visiting a nursing home, helping a friend’s child with homework, mowing a neighbor’s lawn, writing a letter to a grandparent. Doing five kind acts a week, especially all in a single day, gave a measurable boost to Lyubomirsky’s subjects. Seligman has tested similar interventions in controlled trials at Penn and in huge experiments conducted over the Internet.

The single most effective way to turbocharge your joy, he says, is to make a “gratitude visit.” That means writing a testimonial thanking a teacher, pastor or grandparent anyone to whom you owe a debt of gratitude and then visiting that person to read him or her the letter of appreciation. “The remarkable thing. It is that people who do this just once are measurably happier and less depressed a month later.

But it’s gone by three months.” Less powerful but more lasting, he says, is an exercise he calls three blessings taking time each day to write down a trio of things that went well and why. People are less depressed and happier three months later and six months later. Seligman’s biggest recommendation for lasting happiness is to figure out your strengths and find new ways to deploy them.

Increasingly, his work, done in collaboration with Christopher Peterson at the University of Michigan. He has focused on defining such human strengths and virtues as generosity, humor, gratitude and zest and studying how they relate to happiness. As a professor, I don’t like this, but the cerebral virtues curiosity, love of learning are less strongly tied to happiness than interpersonal virtues like kindness, gratitude and capacity for love.

Why do exercising gratitude, kindness and other virtues provide a lift? “Giving makes you feel good about yourself,” says Peterson. When you’re volunteering, you’re distracting yourself from your own existence, and that’s beneficial. More fuzzily, giving puts meaning into your life. You have a sense of purpose because you matter to someone else.” Virtually all the happiness exercises being tested by positive psychologists, he says, make people feel more connected to others.

That seems to be the most fundamental finding from the science of happiness. Almost every person feels happier when they are with other people,” observes Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. It’s paradoxical because many of us think we can hardly wait to get home and be alone with nothing to do, but that’s a worst-case scenario. If you are alone with nothing to do, the quality of your experience really plummets. But can a loner really become more gregarious through acts-of-kindness exercises?

Can a dyed-in-the-wool pessimist learn to see the glass as half full? Can gratitude journals work their magic over the long haul? And how many of us could keep filling them with fresh thankful thoughts year after year? Sonja Lyubomirsky believes it’s all possible: I’ll quote Oprah here, which I don’t normally do.

She was asked how she runs five miles a day, and she said, ‘I recommit to it every day of my life.’ I think happiness is like that. Every day you must renew your commitment. Hopefully, some of the strategies will become habitual over time and not a huge effort.” But other psychologists are more skeptical. Some simply doubt that personality is that flexible or that individuals can or should change their habitual coping styles.

If you are a pessimist who really thinks through in detail what might go wrong, that’s a strategy that’s likely to work very well for you,” says Julie Norem, a psychology professor at Wellesley College and the author of The Positive Power of Negative Thinking. “In fact, you may be messed up if you try to substitute a positive attitude.”

She is worried that the messages of positive psychology reinforce “a lot of American biases” about how individual initiative and a positive attitude can solve complex problems. Who’s right? This is an experiment we can all do for ourselves. There’s little risk in trying some extra gratitude and kindness, and the results should they materialize are their own reward.

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Wednesday, 21 August 2019

Eight Steps Toward a More Satisfying Life?

Want to lift your level of happiness? Here are some practical suggestions from University of California psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky, based on research findings by her and others. Satisfaction guaranteed at least a temporary boost. In this world, nothing is more precious than happiness.  

1. Count your blessings.
One way to do this is with a “gratitude journal” in which you write down three to five things for which you are currently thankful from the mundane (your peonies are in bloom) to the magnificent (a child’s first steps). Do this once a week, say, on Sunday night. Keep it fresh by varying your entries as much as possible. Count the blessing of health, job, children, food, God has given you.

2. Practice acts of kindness.

These should be both random (let that harried mom go ahead of you in the checkout line) and systematic (bring Sunday supper to an elderly neighbor). Being kind to others, whether friends or strangers, triggers a cascade of positive effects—it makes you feel generous and capable, gives you a greater sense of connection with others and wins you smiles, approval and reciprocated kindness all happiness boosters.

3. Savor life’s joys.
Pay close attention to momentary pleasures and wonders. Focus on the sweetness of a ripe strawberry or the warmth of the sun when you step out from the shade. Some psychologists suggest taking “mental photographs” of pleasurable moments to review in less happy times.

4. Thank a mentor.
If there’s someone whom you owe a debt of gratitude for guiding you at one of life’s crossroads, don’t wait to express your appreciation in detail and, if possible, in person. Say him, a big thank you to acknowledge his help or support in your difficult time. Because, very few peoples come ahead to help you. Talk with him and share your life experiences.

5. Learn to forgive.
Let go of anger and resentment by writing an email or letter of forgiveness to a person who has hurt or wronged you. Inability to forgive is associated with persistent rumination or dwelling on revenge, while forgiving allows you to move on. Anger disturbed your mental peace and let your mind to free from that. It is a great act only brave people can do that. So, learn to forgive.

6. Invest time and energy in friends and family.

Where you live, how much money you make, your job title and even your health have surprisingly small effects on your satisfaction with life. The biggest factor appears to be strong personal relationships. Family should be your most important thing in the world. Spend time with your children, wife, mother and father. They are closest persons living around you. Spending time with them will also relax you and enhance your mood.

7. Take care of your body.
Getting plenty of sleep, exercising, stretching, smiling and laughing can all enhance your mood in the short term. Practiced regularly, they can help make your daily life more satisfying. Your body will move easily in any situation, where most of fat people don’t do that. So, brisk walk is another option to relax your mind and body.

8. Develop strategies for coping with stress and hardships.

There is no avoiding hard times. Religious faith has been shown to help people cope, but so do the secular beliefs enshrined in axioms like “This too shall pass” and “That which doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.” The trick is that you must believe them.

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Monday, 19 August 2019

What is Happiness in Life?

In the late spring and early summer see the start of more quests for happiness than do any other seasons It is currently of year that thousands of young men and young women leave universities and schools setting out to chart their course and sail theirs hips through life.

Many are the routes open to them the professions, commerce, manufacturing finance, farming, and a host of other ways of making a living. Their problem is to choose the one route a long which their happiness may be found. Opinions differ from age to age as to what happiness is. Popular" how to" books of the 18th century was chiefly concerned with the subject of how to die a good death; those of the 19th century moved on to the subject of how to make a good living; and those of the 20th and 21st century is devoted to telling us how to live happily.

Many people perhaps most people would say that the greatest happiness they could achieve would be freedom and ability to do what they want to do. That is not a very good description of happiness because it is difficult to be sure just what one wants today, let alone next year and twenty years from now. Human beings are changeable. What may seem the supreme material good today may be completely out of date within a few months.

What is Happiness in Life?

Happiness arises largely from the mental qualities of contentment, confidence, serenity and active good will. It includes the pain of losing as well as the pleasure of finding. It thrives best in a crowded life. The men and women who are recorded in history and biography as most happy were people with always somewhat more to do than they could possibly do.

Every waking hour of their lives was occupied with ambitious projects literature love, politics, science, friendship, IT, Doctors, commerce professions trade, their religious faith, and a thousand other matters. The secret of happiness may be found by making each of these interest count to its utmost as part of the fabric of life.

We need to avoid the extremes of sluggish placidity and feverish activity. The youths of today are not going to be satisfied with felicity which resembles that of a stone, unfeeling and unmoving, but these youths will look back from future years with sorrow and regret if they run to and fro, giving in to what Socrates called" the itch."

Happiness lies in the active exercise of a man vital powers along the lines of excellence in a life affording full scope of for their development. Happiness obviously includes two sorts of behaviors active and passive. We may say that the active part consists in searching and sharing, while the passive part is made up of security and possessions. Neither part is complete of itself and neither yields full satisfaction it is over-emphasized philosophers from the ancient have been extolling a balanced life as the happiest life, and many unhappy people can when they face the issue, trace their discontent imbalance.

The recipe for happiness cannot be given in any single word, because its many virtues must be combined in their proper quantities at the proper times, for proper purposes. Happiness, prevent physical suffering, prevent guilt, do not accept illusions, keep learning, accept your limitations, be willing to pray, and pay for everything you get, be willing and able to love, avoid secrets.

About Seeking Happiness

It is legitimate to seek happiness We cannot help observing that while followers of some schools of thought are telling us to avoid seeking happiness they intimate that if we do so we shall be happy. The searcher enquirers a plan. We need to know what sort of happiness we seek, what the ingredients are, what are our strongest wants, and what we must start with.

We should train ourselves to keep the programmed simple and free from complications and side. Most of us do not really have to seek far and wide. Happiness grows at our own fireside if we cultivate it. The romantic minds of young people are likely to imagine that happy events and happiness-bringing people will make them to entrance to the sound of drums and trumpets but when we look back from the vantage point of maturity we see that they came in quietly almost unnoticed. Human felicity is produced not so much by great pieces of good fortune that seldom happen as by little advantages that occur every day.  

Emphasis on the little things applies whatever profession or business a youth takes up. Look at the multitude of little things included management the application of science and technical skill to some material good or products. The systematic ordering of operation and the organization of teamwork and sustained cooperation.

Never are we alone with our lives. We are enmeshed in families in offices, in groups, and in obligations. We cannot be content with self-maintenance. A machine that does no more than keep itself going is of no value whatever. Contributing is essential to realization of happiness.

“The Power of Positive Thinking is the Way to Happiness”

Self-love the narcissitic stage of life is the most tragic of all fixations. It prevents our adapting ourselves to social relations. Our own conceit blinds us to the esteem and admiration we might enjoy from others. Those who are self so self centered remind us of Aesop’s fly, it sat upon the axle tree of a chariot wheel and said what a dust I raise. 

We cannot buy a ticket of happiness. It is a destination reached only as we search for a trail and follow it. Nothing good that includes happiness is ever reached without labor or won without toil. The condition of winning happiness in life, social business, profession – is the opposite of inertia and it includes little of accident. It demands directions and growth. The things which help to make up happiness, like health, wealth, honor, and successful business, entrepreneur are themselves neutral. They are good or bad according to the use made of them. If a man does not know how to use them, he is better off without them. If he fails to use them well, they wilt and die.

Keep in mind, there is no place in the world, where you can find happiness. Or search happiness for lotus-eaters, those people who cling to a static life. But it is a mistake to hurry unduly. We cannot leap to heights we were meant to climb. No artist can paint all creation on one canvas. He balances his effort in the confines of frame. The principle we live by, in business and in social life are the most part of happiness. You need to be very careful upon achieving happiness not to lose the virtues which have produced it.

The young person who is successful in his daily work should not forget prudence, moderation and kindness the qualities essential to his success. Life can be beautiful for its grace and goodness as well as for its strength and success. As for those who took their first steps out of university and school many years ago in the search of happiness. They should find comfort in the thought that happiness, though it may be menaced and buffeted by many forces is saved by hope. Everyone has or may attain the faculty of making use of what befalls. If he can say at the end of a day that it was not an empty not a lost day and that he is glad to be alive because tomorrow is coming is that perhaps happiness.
Happiness loves action, and the philosophers agree that happiness must include some form of worthy activity. Life demands work, but happiness requires, dreaming, planning, aspiring, doing and pressing on from one attainment to another still greater. The world is likely to believe in a man who believe in himself, providing shows that his self-reliance is grounded upon a true appraisal and is well managed.

No man can be great in business or a profession or an art who wants advice before he does anything important. Self-reliance is the end expression of many qualities emotional stability willingness to face facts and to bear responsibility, discipline, faith in one’s judgement and practice in making decisions and abiding by them.

We must admit that to decide or still more to revise one is the most responsible and most exacting part of the process of living. No blunder in war or politics. As life of Napoleon is so common as that which arises from missing the proper moment of exertion and his warning is quite applicable to business. The man who trains himself to make quick energetic decisions even about small matters such as writing a letter or email for keeping an engagement is contributing to his happiness by realizing his capacity as a vigorous accomplishing character.

Choose Wisely What is Happiness in Life?

Such a person, having set one idea upon its feet, spring another. He knows that for him, happiness does not abide in imitation or conformity, but arises from his ability to think and do the new things. Those succeed best in their search for happiness who form definite ideas of what they are going to do before they start to do it. Aim is necessary, and it must be specific and within the bounds of reality. Lots of people get nowhere simply because they do not know where they want to go.

What do we seek to be happy? Our decision need not be one of self enclosed finalizes, but we should plan for definite goals, each of which will be the starring place for a new effort.  Our first plan is merely the sketch of a picture still to be painted. To choose our course means more than wishing we were at its end. We must run the course. That means leaving something behind and passing scenes which invite us to linger for their enjoyment.

There is a loss and a gain in every step forward, and acceptance of this unalterable fact is involved in making our choice. But the happiness of the man who sets up a good and worthy goal and goes all our toward it is far more sublime than that of one who achieves pleasure without sacrifice. To choose the goal requires wisdom, the highest types of thinking. It silences useless discussion of insignificant things and concentrates on reaching judgement about important affairs.

Aids to Happiness

There are some things which will make our search for happiness easier. Though, it never easy and good habits, will accustom us to free our minds and hands of petty chores so that we may devote our strength of mind and body to our life job. Civilization advances by extending the number of important operations we can perform without thinking of them. The skills which we develop into habits save time and energy accustoms us to disposing of unpleasant tasks, make us exercise the virtues of punctuality and shun the vices of procrastination and generally free us to pay and un-distracted attention to matters that are very significant.

If pattern living takes over the routine tasks, freeing us from the necessity of deciding less important things afresh every day, that is a good thing, but we must not carry habit to the point where it becomes our master. The year in which a man’s habit becomes sacred and untouchable marks the beginning of his old age.

Moreover, good health is also an integral part of happiness. When your nervous system has a surplus of energy at its disposal we take pleasure in working it off and in recuperating. Absence of health, or indulgence in pleasure beyond the limit of our stored force, causes happiness. In keeping the balance so often referred to between income and outgo of energy, emotion, social feeling, and the other forces which influences our happiness we discover the virtue that resides in self-control.

Self-Control does not mean merely surface composure. Down among our nerve cells and fibers the molecules are counting every discomposure and every mental disturbance. Nothing we ever do in strict scientific literalness, wiped out. The emotions we allow to seethe under a tranquil exterior appearance leave their mark upon the record and we must make an accounting debit or credit.
To sit quietly in a room with nothing but one’s thoughts or with the companionship of someone’s with whom we are in intellectual communion, in an atmosphere or tranquility and the appreciation of vital matters. That can be happiness and the parent of more happiness.